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We went through a messy divorce and then finally I settled and basically let her have things her way. I can't say I would kick out the ex wife without a place she could go. My step father had 50/50 custody with his ex wife (not my mother) and his children had to spend a semester here and the next semester at that he ex wife’s house (multiple states away). So, AITA for not inviting my ex-husband's wife to my daughter's birthday party because she told me not to? Okay, just for precision: My daughter's half-sibling is 4 years younger than her; she was born in April, while he was born in March the next year after the divorce (he just turned 6). His ex and kids hate me and I’m not fond of them either. When we broke up, my ex-wife still continued to retain her relations with my family and they have pretty much shunned me. She spent it on a boob job because she felt like her boobs had become "ugly" after pregnancy and breastfeeding. She currently has a small dog that I gave her as a wedding gift and she will be taking with her when she moves. You caused the marriage to fail and your ex graciously put her own feelings aside for the betterment of the children. What she has done, assuming this story is true, is evil. I told my ex-wife of 2 years that she couldn't have items that she left at the house since we've been divorced like the gas grill and kitchen items. ”. But that is not always the case, this guy married a 20 year old, moved her out of her home country back to his because he wasn't comfortable there, then gets shocked when throwing money at her doesn't make her happy. She left because I lost my leg. I once ran into them at an outdoor concert and I just spoke to my ex and pretty much ignored him (and he got the hint). AITA I refused to help my ex wife pay for a surgery. Besides it’s not his ex wife’s responsibility to make that relationship, and with young kids it takes time. So obviously NTA. Subreddit Announcements. We agreed she would continue living in our main home, and I would move to the lakehouse. She walked out, had minimal contact for two years, and has to reap the consequences— but those consequences should never, under any circumstances, be homophobia. Throw away account, but my (F46) fiancé’s (M46) ex-wife (F48) is melting down because I won’t include in my life. Ex and I are not on the best of terms. My divorce was different but my ex started dating her boss as soon as the divorce was finalized. o. AITA - Ex wife still wants to bring her new husband and family to our family events My brother got divorced two years ago and his ex wife has since got remarried. I am also remarried. For some context I(46M) was married to my ex-wife Ida(46F) for 21 years before she cheated and remarried to her now dick of a husband Dan(48M). Everything was fine up until that morning. We live about 30-minutes apart and have split custody but the kids live with me primarily during the school year because I live in a much better AITA For telling my ex-wife that she should be a more responsible co-parent and it wouldn’t take the entirety of her day to send a few reminders and keep me involved? (Throwaway account) My ex-wife Natasha has primary custody of our sixteen-year-old daughter, Valerie. My parents and Elle’s parents were long time family friends and that didn’t stop after our divorce. Anyway, when that relationship failed she started being nice to me. He was married before for about 11 years. We had been married for 4 years, together for a total of 9 years. My son is 22, my daughter is 18. My wife immediately screamed at her "shut the fuck up and let me eat or leave". I was so hurt by the both of them. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! He told you that he was part of an arranged marriage and zoomed in to his engagement ‘ In your home’. She was a bubbly, cheerful perso ADMIN MOD. The wedding happened on Feb 11. My ex and I had a horrible relationship. The first Christmas he told me that he was going to spend it with his ex-wife and baby. It's your daughter's money, and taking it/pressuring her to give her step-sister money will be immoral. I (30M) have an 8 year old son with my ex-wife. I always admired his friendship with his ex and how they’re raising their daughter amicably. We divorced 7 years ago. the action I took that may make me the AH is stopping funding my ex wife and her kids lives 2) this may make me the AH bc it’s a huge shift for them Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. You have to sacrifice some of the happiness of keeping your mum close by during your first childbirth. The infidelity the comments about your ex wife and your current girlfriend’s weight gainyeesh YTA for that already. I 35M met my now soon to be ex Wife 33F during Uni 12 years ago. I had been completely against the idea of spending money on a 7. Most places once your around 10-13 will start taking your opinions into account. So I'm 16 and in a band and this girl shows up. Hello everyone. We don't have any children together. They’re 10 and 12, and all she and your ex are going to do is alienate them and permanently damage their relationship with your boys if they don’t learn to back off. So I’ve (m38) been divorced from my ex wife (f35) for 10 years. AITAH for 'tricking' my soon to be ex-wife? I've (34M) been married to Alice (33F) for seven years now, the last 2 years have been completely dead bedroom with Alice being extremely closed off. The correct title would be: “AITA for showing up at my ex’s wedding in a wedding dress”. The split was quite amicable and we have remained quite good friends. I had a business trip I needed to go to, but by the time I got AITA for getting a dog, even though my ex-wife told me no. I did not attend. My ex-wife has always had a brilliant relationship with my family and brother (16M) considering we had been together for 12 years prior to our breakup. Sharing her story with Reddit's Am I the A*****? (AITA) forum, user u/Better-Paint4891 explained that her ex Me and my ex husband divorced 4 years ago, we have two daughters together. We have two children together, ages 16, and 10. We got a rough estimate on that car damage and it’s a lot. This situation only really involves Rory. This is a situation where I understand why oop let the ex stay. She hadn't said anything to me about I (f29) met my fiancé(m35) 5 year ago, he had a 2 year old daughter who he has shared custody of with his ex wife (f40). She got pregnant and confessed that she doesn't know if the baby was mine or her affair partners. AITAH for telling ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life? I (m36) met my ex wife (f33) when I was 25. In all honesty, I would've been on his side if he didn't spend the whole first paragraph professing his undying love for the ex-wife. "Then that could potentially ruin her wanting to apply in general. AITA for refusing to take care of my ex's baby. r/AmItheAsshole. I had a good job my whole adult life, but recently I received an exposingex. I am a 29 year old father of two. She and my ex best friend Silas (25M) have been married for 3 and have 1 year old baby. That's the whole "for better or for worse" thing. UPDATE: AITA for shouting at my ex in front of my daughters? UPDATE. Ex-wife was either making a joke at the fact you sent her the article or reading into too much. My ex-wife (39F) and I (42M) divorced about 4 years ago after 12 years of marriage. We eventually stopped trying about 10 months ago now. Too young. Jun 3, 2022 · The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for not sharing any family news with my son growing up because he'd tell my ex everything, resulting in legal issues," has been upvoted 14,500 times since Feb 20, 2024 · My husband and I have been married for 28 years. AITA for getting a dog, even though my ex-wife told me no. Jackie and I married early but divorced in our twenties due to her immaturity and vindictiveness. Jun 7, 2024 · AITA for excluding my fiancés ex-wife from my life? Advice Needed. ADMIN MOD. We were pressured by our families. A little bit of background; my ex-wife and I were together for 13 years (married 10) and have been divorced for over two years. I was nervous meeting her parents but when I saw a little girl beside her Mom i was confused. AITAH because I don’t want to take care of my husband’s ex wife. But then I learned she cheated and she had told the other guy that he was the father. My fiancé (36m) and I (34f) have been together for several years and just got engaged in December 2023. But my boyfriend only has visitation rights so far. I (32M) have been divorced from my ex wife Elle (32F) for 4 years. The first time I met her at a work event she told me while I was heavily pregnant my youngest “better up your wife game or I might steal him off you” well 3 months later she did, this woman literally came with him to help pack the day he moved out and tried to have a one on one conversation on how she wanted our relationship going forward My wife and I have two hree year old’s one boy and one girl. 5 years ago and she hasn't quite got over it. . We have a teenage daughter together. In college, we worked at the same restaurant, that's where we met. Gold-Programmer2895. Many of you asked for an update, so here goes: Last weekend, the girls were at their mom’s. No A-holes here First some background: My ex and I were married for about 5 years, divorced for about 3 or 4 when this happened. It’s perfectly understandable for you to not want to be with your ex and it’s also understandable for your wife to see a family who still considers her theirs considering the ones who raised her literally abandoned her. I [39M] asked my ex-wife [35F] [Karen - not real name] to set a boundary of not letting our kids spend time alone in a bedroom with her fiancé [30M] [Tim - not real name]. She clearly did not love you when you were together. AITA ex friend's ex wife . The only reason that I know she's still alive is the child support checks that I get. My ex wife and I divorced 4. He has a ten year old son from his previous marriage and I love him a lot, my husband splits custody with his ex-wife 50/50 with them alternating weeks. she already had kid when she was 19 but the dad left as soon as she started uni. It was not a nice thing. He saw me awake and got surprised and asked, "Is everything okay?" So, she is bitter towards us. NAH. We have two homes-a main home close to NYC and a lakehouse upstate. He stays the whole three days 24-26. She is remarried. On top of the child support I cover 100% of health and dental insurance and the kids cell phone bills. Last year, my new wife and I had a baby (who is now 1M). Nov 22, 2023 · I, a 37-year-old man, divorced my ex-wife, “Sophie” (36F), eight years ago after a tumultuous five-year marriage. The night before, my wife gave me the finial push. My boyfriend already told his ex that he would be out of town that day if their son needed anything. That-Sail-1116. So firstly: as everyone said, your wife/SD are not entitled to money your ex-wife saved for your shared daughter. Ex-wife and I divorced 7 years ago. I would send him an invoice for 5 years monetary and Emotional harm. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! I came to Reddit for an honest opinion on if I’m the asshole. My wife picked up our grandkids, got them dressed and attended the wedding. AITA for not wanting my fiancé’s ex-wife’s child in my wedding party? Not the A-hole. Remind yourself that you deserve a lovely single man. We were dating for 3 months before I met her daughter Lisa. Not the A-hole. The fact you also later changed your mind based on circumstance should have no bearing on the previous situation. •. Blessings to you 🦋🦋. When my ex was pregnant with the baby, she decided that she didn't want to be involved with me or the kids anymore, so she divorced me and signed all her rights away. It is about 6000€ (average salary in my country is about 1000€ a month, so this is a lot of money). Because you chose not to have your kids 50/50 and split their costs 50/50, you are saving $255 per month, assuming you only have two children in this equation. I pay my ex-wife an agreed upon amount of child support that is well over what the state would require. I feel bad that I threw her stuff away but I didn't know she wanted it. I (37M) divorced my ex wife (34F) 4 years ago. You are paying $1400 for at least two kids. We fell in love and the children came sooner than we planned but it just happened and I love the hell out of my children (f9 and, m7,5 and f5). I read all of them. I was close to our neighbor Sarah. The major reason for the separation is because she decided she wanted an open relationship with someone she met and I was not interested. OP could pay her back half the money as a gesture of goodwill but he is not in the wrong here. I tried to start date nights, but she would cancel them. Your step-daughter have two living parents. During the divorce proceedings, I learned that Claire's younger sister, Cindy (20F), had known about the affair but chose to keep quiet AITA for asking my ex-wife to stop making my kids jealous and flaunting. I (33f) have a 13yo son named Adam that I’ve raised on my own. AITA for telling my ex wife “not everyone is a self centered b*ch like you. We had mutual friends and started dating when we were 18 & 19yrs old. I hardly ever hear from ex or his wife. Seven years ago, my wife's grandmother passed. We have 2 kids together (10 & 8). My ex husband remarried 1 year ago, and I knew that he and his wife were excepting because my daughters told me that they would get a sibling. I was the main provider, and we had a toddler AITA for insisting on a paternity test before accepting my ex-wife's son as my own? I (32M) was married to my ex-wife, Jane (30F), for five years. May 9, 2024 · "AITA For telling my ex-wife's new partner that she is not the parent of our unborn child and has no say in what his name will be?" My Ex-Wife(F28) and I(M28) split up a few months ago due to her coming out as a lesbian. We divorced because she cheated twice. My ex wife (28f) Jane and I (28m) divorced 4 years ago after 8 months of marriage. Every week, they go to Martin's and stay there for two days. And we have two kids together (m12 and m10) I remarried a year late while she’s still single. AITA for calling out my ex's new wife for being unemployed. Our divorce was finalized a month ago, and my ex is planning to move out by the end of the month. AITAThrowaway2881. For starters we are not married anymore. My ex and I broke up 11 months ago after I found out she cheated on me multiple times in our 12 year relationship. Needless to say, the marriage ended, and we got divorced about eight months ago. Note. We grew up to together, attended each other’s wedding’s and have always been very close. I very close with me ex girlfriend of mine. Since you are raising a child in my family you will learn better". So my (34M) ex-wife (30F) and I still live together with our 4-year old child. Tried to start couples therapy, and again, she would cancel appointments day of. My husband and I have stopped following my husband's ex-wife's food rules for the stepkids. ADMIN. I wasn't done university and she was fresh out of high school. NTA. His dad, Chris (34m), was someone I met in college. Our separation, while difficult, was civil. She now has two little girls from the new marriage and one with my brother and still wants to be included in family Christmas party’s and family vacations. He brought two kids into the marriage, and I have one of my own. I have five kids with my now ex-wife, (7F), (5F), (2M and 2M), and a seven month old baby boy. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. AITA for sending my ex wife money every month? Asshole. My (38M) wife (Paula 38F) of three years has 2 kids (Joe 12M, and Tanner 4M) with her ex-husband (Martin 40M). As if that wasn’t bad enough, you then asked the same ex you cheated on to help you repair the relationship with your mom that was a result of the decision you exclusively made. We went to fertility doctors after the first year AITA for “triggering” my boyfriends ex wife. . AITA for telling my ex’s wife that he lied to her? Not the A-hole. We wanted to go out recently but we needed a babysitter. She got married last year (let's call him Pepe [26M]) and gave birth to her husband's son this February. My issue is your wife's behavior. 15 years went down the drain because I was in a car crash. This one's a doozy. Throwaway. She planted a tree at our lake house in her honor. AITA: My fiancé’s ex-wife would like to visit for the weekend and doesn’t want me there. I have custody of Valerie for about eight days every month. I used wonder(and now don't care) if they dated before our divorce. I have 3 further kids (f9, f7 f3). JustInTime1001. AITA when I stopped seeing my hospitalized ex-wife without explaining anything to her after she came out of a coma. I think 80k is far higher than any living wage, so she’s doing fine. My husband's ex-wife has a lot of valid trauma regarding food that has led her to have these concerns, but just can't do it anymore. when we divorced i became so depressed and focused on spending time on my project and after years of struggling financially and mentally i managed to For not letting my ex husband now wife to go to my daughters birthday part 2) For not allowing my ex to bring his ex wife to see my daughter Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. A is really pretty and nice enough but it always seems exaggerated and not real. AITA for going after child support from my ex wife and her husband even though I said I would not after the said they wanted input on how I raise my daughter? My ex-wife, Sandy, and I got married young. This is a weird title but here's what actually happened. If you had refuted it and said "no, you're not. So I put them in therapy to help them through this. AITA for telling my Ex-Wife's Fiancee the truth about our divorce? My (33M) ex-wife (30F) and I got divorced 3 years ago. They had a daughter who is now 40. My husband was previously married and has been divorced for about a decade. I45m was married to my ex wife Kelly45 for 15 years. I told my wife she was a liar. He gets a call that his son's mother NTA. Modeling is the job that she has done, so it makes sense to send the job she knows and qualifies to do. Since My boys were teens/young adults when we divorced they got to choose who they lived AITA for not letting my husband buy a house for his ex and kids? Not the A-hole. They all think I’m the reason they can’t get back together even though she’s the one who cheated and I didn’t meet him until he was in the middle of their divorce negotiations. basically, my ex-wife (20, female) and I (20, male) were together since middle school, and had always wanted a kid. My oldest of three just turned 18 and graduated high school. That she had the balls to come to you for help shows how desperate she must have been. We have 4 kids together. We had our fair share of ups and downs, including a failed attempt at starting a family. I remember seeing her family for the first time. I told her already I'll helo out in any way I can. I (30M) was married to my ex-wife Claire (28F) for four years until I found out she had been cheating on me with an ex-boyfriend. AITA For not including my ex-wife's step-kids in activities I do with my kids. You are letting her live there instead of paying child support, stick to the deal you made. When we had gotten married, a year prior to all this, we had tried time and time again. I (38F) have been married to my husband (39M) for four years and been together for seven all in all. Part of this is because they don't feel like he makes enough of an effort. When she started dating her husband Jeff, the two of them attempted to get me to step back or step out of my daughters life so he could be her new father. AITA for exposing my ex wife’s lies to her family about our “marriage”? Not the A-hole. Her (32f) and I (30M) split well over a year ago, our divorce was just finalized about 2 months ago. Kyle came home late last night since he was working on a project with his coworker. She's stunning, and me being a shy guy, I didn't have the nerve to ask I have two sons ages 16 and 14 with my ex-wife. Our daughter, also did not attend for the same reasons. However, I can understand the (ex) gf side. His ex-wife suddenly announced that she needed my husband to take care of their children on the days we were supposed to be away because she had to work those days AITA For Keeping Our Trip ADMIN. During her second pregnancy I was still married to and thought the baby was mine. I can't blame them. The ex wife doesn’t know how it works either since she expected OP to pay it back as if it was his fault. My ex and I broke up 5 years ago after a year-long relationship, he broke up with me and I took it very hard back then. AITAH for choosing my Girlfriend over my ex wife and Son? I am 55 Male and my GF of 3 years is 40 F. My ex approached me a few weeks ago and asked me to sell the appartment and get our money back. Two slashed tires, deep scratches all over the car and a bit cracked windows. My mom threw the hand towel, grabbed her stuff and left. DistributionPerfect5. Her family lives across the country then with covid they hardly were ever around. YTA. Maybe tell him that it isn’t fair he would want his ex to encourage their child to call his new wife mom or any variation of the word especially since he would NEVER want another man to be called dad. Plus the items I threw away because they had been in my garage for the past two years. Who, apart from the actual bride, goes and buys a dress for a wedding that has the term “wedding dress” in the name. Update - AITAH for canceling a trip because my fiancé ex and her baby are coming. Your ex and you have to interact due to the kids. That comes down to 1,145 per child per month. Ex-wife is the ultimate AH. Practical_Special365. 2. AITA; ex-wife telling children I don't want to pay for them. throw away account I32f, has been married to a 40m for two years. Apr 28, 2023 · A woman refusing to raise her late ex-husband's affair child is being supported online. Your ex wife tried to force a child on you even though she went into the marriage knowing this. My soon to be ex wife (32F) and I (39m) were married for 10 years before we got separated. She divorced me for her co-worker. Our marriage reached a bitter end when I learned she had remained married to me for over three years so I would support her through returning to school so she could switch careers to an even better paying one, despite her old one paying as much as mine. She had our daughter stay with her for 2 extra days so she could look after her. That being said, ex wife can’t just walk out, come back like nothing happened, and then threaten custody with the fact that her girlfriend is a lawyer. The solution is to have stern words with OP’s son about how he can’t spent money without permission, then removing the card from the game. she was caught cheating on me. she never got pregnant. Now I understand that since there’s children involved, there should be some co-parenting on both our parts and that we should be able to communicate together AITA: For asking my ex-wife for more of a notice than last minute? My ex-wife and I (33M) divorced in 2013, she cheated on me and then took our child and ran off with the guy, ended up marrying him and having two more children with him. Now, my boyfriend and I have been making plans for my birthday. My ex asked me to sell many times in the past few weeks. AITA for refusing to take my ex-wife as my plus one to my son's wedding? Not the A-hole. She’s not their mother and they aren’t substitutes or stand ins because she has fertility issues. The victims of a cheater always have the right to know. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. AITA for not paying for ex's fertility treatment even though I can afford to? Not the A-hole. They have 4 kids and so they still see each other and co parent. First few years of our relationship was great but then it wasn’t. AITA for refusing to give money to my ex-wife? Not the A-hole. 1K votes, 198 comments. true. So the kids feel replaced. Cheating in some circumstances can be abusive absolutely, if it is pervasive, if there's gaslighting and if there's a huge level of deceit. My boyfriend 41M who I’ll call J was married for 8 years to A 31F but they were together for 10. Now this Friday it was his week with the girls, he called me and asked if I could please take them earlier. Chance-Persimmon-164. She was pregnant at the time and I knew there was a good chance the baby was not mine, which a paternity test proved was true. Another part is the fact he got married 2 years after the move and he has more children with his current wife. TheRealSassyTassy. Very manipulative of OP to just call it a pretty dress when she knew full well what she was doing. Then, upon their request, they began to just stay for a day. She loves kids, couldn’t have any of her own. I can't say I did anything crazy, aside from a few weeks after the AITA for wanting to move to Colorado with my two kids when my ex wife wants to stay in New Mexico and pursue her career aspirations. Context: My ex wife and I separated almost a year ago and we have two kids. It was ugly and messy. MOD. Six years ago my daughter caught my wife with another man. I (38M) and my wife Jackie (38F) have been divorced for several years. Prior to getting engaged, we had started talking wedding plans back in Aug 2023 and have been pretty settled on our wedding party. I currently make around 200K and have to give my ex-wife 40k for alimony and 40k for child support. She lives with her mother. It's a religious thing. Cheating on one's partner is a horrid thing to do, and just like you would report a bully to their parents, you would do right to report a cheater to their partner. No, it is exactly OP's place to "tattle" on his ex-wife. Let your mother babysit them. First of all, thank you for every single comment. ) has been living with me for the past 5 years after his mom [29F] and I [33M] divorced. ParkingHalf181. , she was abusive and we fought all the time. She told her brother who understood what she had witnessed then they both came and told me. But again, that doesn’t mean you should have to be uncomfortable or lonely. Our marriage ended after I discovered she had been cheating on me for about a year with multiple men. CrystalQueen3000. we didn’t have any kids. We share custody of our 13 year old daughter, she had her period for the first time on April and her mom knew and told me. I’m also very close to her husband. We share custody of our son (6M). I spoke to my exwife again and told her that this time of year was the best time to move a tree and give it the highest chance of surviving, and that construction was going to start anyway, and even if we didn't move the tree until the last possible moment, there was still a good chance it could get damaged Mey ex wife and I have been separated for over a year. After she dropped them off Sunday night, my 12yo asked to talk to me in private. It’s been almost a month since my original post, and a lot has happened since then. You can read my original post here. My daughter and I decided to spend the evening with his ex. About 2 years into our marriage, we started trying to a baby but no luck. Yes YTA if you sell the house out from under your ex and your kid. I and Sierra divorced last year because she used money from our joint account without asking me. We were together for 7 years, and married for a little over 3 and half. Follow the link above to learn more Frosty_Tear3788. Lately, they started coming back with a bad mood rather than a neutral one. We planned a day together, going on a short road trip and then dinner. Ilhan stayed in the appartment after his death. While I understand people change their mind she went about it in a sketchy way. The cost of raising a child from birth to age 17 is $233,610. On top of that, since Jeff had three kids instead of one, he AITA for allowing my ex-wife's new husband to ground my kid? My child (7y. Reply reply. I told her Ilhan REALLY needs it and deserves our help (we both have more than enough money). Henry(28M), Zach(26M), Cam(25M) and Rory(15F). AITA for not telling my ex wife that my fiancé is pregnant? My ex wife Carly (39F) and I (40M) got divorced 10 years ago. ze ha mm ss lz im ic pg dz wo